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We often underestimate how valuable and delightful conversations with unexpected people can be. Today, why not be a bit random and open yourself up to the magic of a loose connection?
The Experiment
- Reach out to someone you don’t know (very well): Think about someone you’ve encountered but never really spoken to. Maybe they’re in a different department, or you’ve seen their name pop up on an email chain.
- Frame It as a Fun Challenge: Be cheerily transparent: “Hey, I’m trying to connect with people I don’t normally get to meet. Can we grab a coffee and have a chat? I’m interested to know more about what you do!”
- Focus on Curiosity: Ask about their role, what excites them about their work, or the coolest thing they’ve learned recently. Keep it simple and genuine.
- Lose sight of home: Bonus points for reaching out to people in entirely different functions, departments or companies. Who knows what fresh ideas or surprising insights might come your way? Burst free of your bubble and invite some serendipity into your working day!
What’s the Worst That Could Happen?
They might be too busy or decline politely. OMG, HOW WILL YOU EVER RECOVER?!
In reality, most people are flattered and curious when someone takes an interest in their work or perspective – even if it doesn’t turn into a beautiful friendship.
Why It Works
- Research highlights the ‘strength of weak ties’: people we know less well are often the bridge to new ideas and opportunities. Loose connections can lead to collaborations and broaden our professional horizons in unexpected ways.
- Interacting with different people stimulates creative thinking and problem-solving.
- Spontaneous, no-jeopardy chats defuse stress, and—let’s face it—makes life more fun!
Forget “networking.” You’re just trying to catch a bit of joy, and spark some fresh encounters. So, who’s your first target? The person in another department you once accidentally waved at? Or a total stranger whose job title sounds made-up (but utterly marvellous).
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